Nana's Time Out!!

I have had so much fun and validation doing my "coffee dating". If it is God's will I will have some more.
But at this time I am taking, as my grandchildren would say a, "Time Out" on dating.
I will continue to post thoughts and activities of this Nana, and of course, any dates. But be patient, it may be awhile before I have another "coffee date".

Walk Me to My Car

I guess I'm just an old fashioned gal, but when I meet a man for dinner, I think he should walk me to my car. Isn't it the same as walking me to my door if he had picked me up at my house? Well, at least he paid for dinner!!! As Scarlet O'Hara said, "Tomorrow is another day". But it's not the days that concern me, it's the nights alone!!!

Bad News, Good News

Nana has some bad news and some good news.

The bad news is another date and not a match.

The GOOD news, I met another really nice man and had a very pleasant evening. I have met some very nice, interesting, fun men lately. But unfortunately none of them have been a match for me. So, contrary to what you may have heard or even experienced ladies, there really are some great men out there.

If you are wondering why none of these terrrific men are a my type, it gets down to just plain chemistry. That funny thing that has to be there along with all the other things on Nana's checklist.

It Ain't Always Fun

I must be the biggest coward in the world. I have known for 3 weeks that one very nice gentleman is "not a match" and I have to tell him. He is sooooo nice. So, I'm going to let him know tonight. He deserves someone who will not only get that he is a great person, but also is attracted to him. Gotta have some sparks, ya know what I mean.

Coffee Anyone?

Nana isn't lacking for invitations to coffee. Someone has decided to be original and ask me to Tea next week.
I'm more of a coffee gal, but I am curious to see where he will want to meet to have "TEA". Perhaps a charming little Tea Room. The atmosphere is important to me, so I wonder where we'll meet.

Adventures, even a pleasant one like "Coffee Dating" has it's down side. There is a very sweet, kind, thoughtful man that I have to let know that I'm not interested. How I wish I was. He has so many of the qualities I am looking for. Alas, there is no chemistry for me. So, I have to let him know. I've been on the other side of this issue. But the funny thing was, I didn't take it personally. After all chemistry is an intangible thing, it's not about whether I'm attractive, funny, smart, etc. I could be all those things and just not produce any sparks for someone else. I can only hope this nice man will understand it that same way. It's all part of the Adventure in Coffee Dating.

Valentine's Day Anyone?

I always say, I don't care how old I am when I birthday comes around as long as I get attention and presents. Since I'm the poster child for "The Cup is Half Full", I guess I'll have to come up with something positive about NOT having a "Valentine" on Valentines Day. Hmmm... let's see, how about I won't be getting red roses, my least favorite color for roses, or I won't be getting chocolates, which I don't need because I'm trying to lose weight? Nah, that's not working. Wait, I did think of something positive, my grandchildren are still young enough that I can be their Valentine and they will always be mine!! NOW, Nana is feeling better.

But I'm still saying a prayer that maybe this year God will bring that someone special my way. Hey, even a Nana can dream. There's no expiration date on dreams last time I checked.

Walking Buddy?

I know I said I don't do the hiking thing, but I do like long walks. In fact "Nana" has a story about a long walking date.

George (not his real name) and I had connected on a dating website (see they do work). We had done the email thing and progressed to calling on the phone several times a week. The bad part is he lives in another state.

But we threw caution to the wind and  decided we wanted to meet anyway. Last summer he came to visit for the weekend. Now, don't get any ideas, he stated in a hotel nearby.

Sorry, I'm suppose to be telling you about a walking date. Back to my story. I knew from our conversations George liked  to go walking. I even bought a pair of shoes that I thought were fashionable AND comfortable!! Well, girls that is still as much of a dream as finding the right man.

George and I did alot of walking, in parks and on the last day, along the beach. We walked and talked for miles. I thought I was prepared for the walking. My 'comfortable" and fashionable shoes... let's just say they are still fashionable, as for comfortable, hmmm not so much. I ended up with blisters on the back of my heels that lasted longer than the relationship, unfortunately.

Good thing I'll always be Somebody's Nana

Don't ask me to go hiking

It seems most men in the NW like to go "hiking, camping and fishing". Anyone who knows me knows my idea of camping is no room service after midnight. And hiking, hey I trip on a paperclip on the floor!! I might consider it if Gucci makes hiking boots. On second thought, even that wouldn't get me to go hiking. As for fishing, that I just might consider. But let's not broadcast that, OK?

Report on Dinner Date

Reporting on my date. I met him at the restaurant. I wasn't ready for him to pick me up. After all, what if during the date I decide I don't want to see him again and then I'm stuck in the car with him on ride back to my house. I mean let's face it we all know that happens.

We did have a very nice evening. He is easy to talk to and I felt very comfortable with him. But there just isn't any spark. I wish there was.

One of the things I do on a date is ask myself, would I want him to touch me, just touch me or hold my hand and then the BIG question, would I want him to kiss me? If I answer that with a "not so much" it is really hard to go out with him again. Hey, I may be a grandmother, but I'm not dead!!! So all you younger women, take note, older women still like romance and sex or so I've heard!! I'd like to have both before I die, with a wedding ring of course. Can't help it, I'm old fashioned.

Another question I ask is, "Would I want to introduce him to my children and grandchildren?" Would he fit in and be comfortable, more importantly would they be comfortable with him?

All these questions help me decide if I want to continue seeing someone

Dinner Date

I have a dinner date tomorrow night. We had a "coffee date" a week ago at Starbucks of course. So, I'm wondering what to wear, what will make me look thinner. The same questions that I asked myself when I was 20.

 Isn't if funny how so much of this dating thing is the same for all of us at any age? It's funny to me.

He didn't give me "butterflies", but I have a feeling there may be more to him than I first thought, so I'm going to find out tomorrow night. If not, at the very least, I get to have dinner with a nice person.

Does Nana have a Boyfriend?

My Grandson

Kids say the sweetest, funniest things. I was spending the day with my grandson, who is 7 years old. He asked me if I had a boyfriend. I said, "No, I don't." He said, "That's good." I asked him why he thought it was good.  He said, "Well, if you did, you would want to spend time with him and not me." That touched my heart that my grandson loved spending time with me so much.

I reassured him that no matter what I would always make being with him a priority and that I tell any man I date that my grandchildren are very important to me.

One of my favorite things to find out about a man is, "Tell me about your grandchildren". I listen to how he answers the question and if his face lights up when he talks about his family. I find a family man very sexy. That and a man who loves God deeply. I love that!!!

Long distant doesn't work

Next Coffee Date

Well, someone sent me a "smile" from one of the dating websites I'm on. If you don't know what that means, it means he has seen my profile and likes what he sees. He's attractive from his picture and he's even in the same state!!! Sometimes some of the people who contact me are in other states. I'm not looking for a long distance romance.

So, I sent him a smile

Welcome

Welcome to my blog. Isn't dating at any age an adventure? I'll be sharing with you my experiences as I do the online dating thing. Profiles, photo's, favorite movies, yadda yadda. I talked to a single (much younger) friend of mine tonight and he asked me "how dating was going?" When I shared some of my experiences he said, "Wow, so it's all the same no matter how old you are". Yep!! Only difference is we wear glasses, have wrinkles and sags in places we don't even want to talk about. The funny thing is I'm also having alot of fun and meeting some very nice men. No "matches" yet. I'll love to have you share your "dating adventures" if you are over 50 years old. Nana's Blogging Rules: No bad language, no bashing the other sex, keep it clean, be kind.  I'm looking for the fun and funny side of ths adventure and maybe what you have learned about yourself along the way. Worst Coffee Date: Before the guy got out of his car, I could tell he was disappointed with what he saw. A real blow to the ego. He still bought me a cup of coffee, but asked for it to go!! Best Coffee Date: A very nice gentleman sitting at a table with a vase with 3 yellow roses when I arrived. Very sweet and so was he. But no chemistry. I still have the vase.

1/12/11

by Somebody's Nana

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